Despair, Depression – Give up or Fight back?

I wrote this post a while back but it bears repeating. Depression is an ongoing battle and so many out there are fighting to climb out of that hole. Shout out to all those fighters, carry on. Fighting!

What is Despair? A state in which all hope is lost or absent. Depression? A mental state characterized by a pessimistic sense of inadequacy and a despondent lack of activity; Sad feelings of gloom and inadequacy.

Despair and depression grab you by the throat and slowly strangle the life out of you. They make you blind to the bright colors in your life so that all you can see is gray. A cold lifeless gray. It can be so seductive, so easy to surrender to it. 

What brought on this topic you may ask? I was thinking how a lot of us, potential writers and closet writers, are discouraged in writing, in following our dreams. You want to be a writer and people tell you it’s a pipe dream, give it up. Others tell you that you’re wasting time, give it up. More believe it’s just a hobby you’re fooling around with, that you’ll give it up soon enough. And there are those who laugh at you and believe you could never write anything worth reading and advise you to give it up. 

Those three words again: Give It Up. They go round and round in your head until they’re all you can see. And discouraged, you decide it was a foolish dream to start with after all and you GIVE IT UP. Then you go through your whole life incomplete and without hope, your life as gray as you are inside, devoid of the bright colors that spark up your soul.

How many of us fight through despair, depression every day? Through the loss of hope, through disappointment? 

The key to dealing with despair and depression is to not quit. NEVER give up on yourself. People might bring you down but believe in yourself. It’s the most powerful tool you could ever have – self-belief. 

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Fight for what you want. Give yourself a pep talk. Be your own inspiration, your own warrior.

Exercise frequently – believe me, it helps to have a physical outlet for all the frustration, disappointment, sadness bubbling inside of you. I recommend swimming if you can, it clears your head.

Relax with your favorite movie or TV show. All this helps in strengthening you for the obstacles in your life. 

Dream as big as you want, because dreams are what keep our souls alive. (So long as your dreams are legal and don’t hurt anyone, of course.)

Whatever you want to do, be it to write, to sing, to tame lions and sharks, go for it. Make a start somewhere. Try. Even if you fail, at least you’ll know you did your best. That you tried. Do it for yourself, not for others. The moment you start, something inside you unfolds and everything in your world shifts and becomes clearer. You have purpose in your life. 

There will be days you will be so full of hope you’ll be bursting with it. Anything will seem possible.

And there will be days when life cuts you to small pieces and you feel like you can’t get up. You have to get up, keep going, keep enduring, keep fighting. If you don’t fight back, you’re just lying there in the middle of the road and telling the bus of life to run you over. 

Treasure those days of hope and keep fighting on. Start now! 

Best of luck!

S.R. McKade

Bookworm Calendar

It’s been two months since my last post and I keep telling myself I’ll do it – write a post and the pending reviews awaiting me but you know what they say about resolutions?
They’re only as good as the people who keep them and right now, I’m falling off mark (*hangs head in shame*).

On the brighter side, (*head’s holding up high again, moment of shame already forgotten*), I just took one of my fantastic fiction breaks,  where I go on (https://www.fantasticfiction.com/) to have a nice time browsing and drooling over what new books will be out next and when.

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Of course, I already have a Bookworm’s Calendar as follows:

 

Release Dates Title of book
21 March 2017 Bound Together — Christine Feehan (that’s today, yay!)
09 May 2017 Dead Man Walking — Sherrilyn Kenyon
30 May 2017 Shadow Reaper — Christine Feehan
Come Sundown — Nora Roberts
06 June 2017 The Silent Corner — Dean Koontz
05 September 2017 Secrets In Death — J.D. Robb
Dark Legacy — Christine Feehan
01 August 2017 Dragonsworn — Sherrilyn Kenyon

Imagine my excitement when I saw that Nora Roberts will have a new book out on 05 December 2017 titled, YEAR ONE, Book 1 of the trilogy, CHRONICLES OF THE ONE. And this excitement is different from the one over the list of new books to be out because YEAR ONE sounds like a different style from Nora Roberts’ usual. There’s a dystopian feel to it and the synopsis is amazing. Don’t take my word for it, see below:

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Synopsis:

It began on New Year’s Eve.

The sickness came on suddenly, and spread quickly. The fear spread even faster. Within weeks, everything people counted on began to fail them. The electrical grid sputtered; law and government collapsed–and more than half of the world’s population was decimated.

Where there had been order, there was now chaos. And as the power of science and technology receded, magic rose up in its place. Some of it is good, like the witchcraft worked by Lana Bingham, practicing in the loft apartment she shares with her lover, Max. Some of it is unimaginably evil, and it can lurk anywhere, around a corner, in fetid tunnels beneath the river–or in the ones you know and love the most.

As word spreads that neither the immune nor the gifted are safe from the authorities who patrol the ravaged streets, and with nothing left to count on but each other, Lana and Max make their way out of a wrecked New York City. At the same time, other travelers are heading west too, into a new frontier. Chuck, a tech genius trying to hack his way through a world gone offline. Arlys, a journalist who has lost her audience but uses pen and paper to record the truth. Fred, her young colleague, possessed of burgeoning abilities and an optimism that seems out of place in this bleak landscape. And Rachel and Jonah, a resourceful doctor and a paramedic who fend off despair with their determination to keep a young mother and three infants in their care alive.

In a world of survivors where every stranger encountered could be either a savage or a savior, none of them knows exactly where they are heading, or why. But a purpose awaits them that will shape their lives and the lives of all those who remain.

The end has come. The beginning comes next.

Genre: Fantasy

I can’t wait for this book to be out. The anticipation alone’s playing hell on my nerves and I only just found out about Year One, like, an hour ago, lol.

Here’s to delightful releases of amazing books to come.

S.R. McKade

 

 

Dream = Hope

“I have spread my dreams under your feet.
Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.”
― W.B. Yeats

What are we without dreams? Often, I ask myself why I write, why I keep at it even in view of criticism and negative reviews. I know the answer, even when discouragement makes me question myself again and again.

The answer—I write because I have stories to tell, stories that won’t let my mind rest, stories that need to be told. Words have power. And by writing the stories in my head, I bring them to life. Give them power.

Of course, I want to write a bestseller, touch thousands of lives, maybe make them better. What writer doesn’t? But I write because I have to.

We wake, work, do what needs to be done, deal with our responsibilities and obligations, go to sleep at nightsome, exhausted. Others, restless, unable to sleep with our busy thoughts or worries keeping us up. And we wake up to do it all another day, and another.

Food, water, exercise and work feed our body, education our mind.

Dreams feed our soul. They are what give rise to music and books. To art. 
“Dreams nourish the soul just as food nourishes the body. The pleasure of the search and of adventure feeds our dreams.”
― Paulo Coelho

Without dreams, a soul can wither because there is no hope. What are we without hope but hollow shells?

I wonder sometimes if dreams aren’t what give us courage—the courage to face the hurdles of our lives day after day. I believe even in the hardest times of our lives, we should have dreams, for they give us hope. Hope for a better future.

S.R. McKade

Free Ebook Download: Kat’s Salvation – A Short Story by S.R. McKade

Anyone who likes a good short story with a dash of romance and a happy ending, try Kat’s Salvation. It’s free for download. Enjoy!

Cover KS Synopsis:
They met…
Fell in love…
Then tragedy drew them apart.
Will Kat and Luke find their Happy Ever After?

Free Ebook – Kat’s Salvation by S.R. McKade

Ramblings

Waiting is one of the hardest, strenuous things in life. Waiting for the stuff you bought on Ebay to finally get here already. Waiting for that promotion you’re tirelessly working for, night and day. Waiting for an agent or publishing house to reply back and not just with any response, mind you—a positive one.

Waiting to get started on that project you’ve been yearning for since forever. Waiting for things to go your damn way for once. Waiting for news of a loved one at the hospital. Waiting for the One to finally show up on his freaking horse and ride off with you in the sunset.

Waiting, waiting, waiting. Waiting’s one of most damnedest, nerve-racking, trying things—on your mind, your emotions, your health. Hardest on your soul.

I’m one of the most impatient persons in the whole damn world. And patience—don’t get me started on freaking patience—is so not a virtue. I wish I had the patience of a monk, one of those Buddhist monks for example who seem to have an unending well of patience. How do they do it? Trust in a higher power? Ye Gods, they can wait forever.

However, even though Patience is not a virtue, Impatience has one big downside. By wishing for things to happen faster, you lose something very special. The ability to savor life as it goes by, to appreciate every moment that comes, be it good or bad. Because once time slips by, it never comes back again, unless you have a time-travelling machine, of course. Or if you were a hot, totally cool vampire who had all the time in the world.

Isn’t there any vampire out there who’d turn me into one and offer me eternal life, please?

Oh, the things I could do if I had all the time in the world. Waiting would be a breeze. Ah well, one human life is all we get and we have to make most of it.

Live it well.

Regards,

S.R. McKade

Change

Change. The wind brings whispers of new times to come.

And no, it’s not the ending of this year and the beginning of the next that’s brought this on. Although, a New Year can be a cause for a lot of changes—everyone has their New Year resolutions.

But I’m talking about how change affects us. Some people easily embrace change while others fear it. Change can be good or bad. It’s as much about losing as gaining because often you have to give up something to gain something new. The key is whether you want it badly enough to accept the loss.

If you look at change as something abnormal, then you will be afraid. We are prone to fear the unknown. It’s part of being human.

This quote from the Bible always gives me some comfort and the ability to be strong:

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Change happens for a reason. Either it’s a blessing or a lesson. You can be afraid but letting the fear overtake you will only incapacitate you. But coping with it in spite of being afraid, that’s courage.

You know what the only way to deal with change is? By looking for that silver lining. Looking for the good in the bad. A positive attitude may not solve all your problems but it sure gives you a boost to keep you standing and moving on when things aren’t going well.

It’s okay to feel overwhelmed but it’s not okay to let changes in your life roll over you. Like the familiar proverb, “Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.”

So, peeps, stand strong like an unbeatable tree and face whatever change is coming your way.

Regards,

S.R. McKade

Listlessness  – The Enemy of Writing

The various voices in your head clamoring to be heard, ensure that your mind is never a quiet place. Wait, I’m not insane – don’t rush off to get me committed! I’m a writer.

Now that we’ve avoided me getting committed, let’s get back to writing. In spite of the wonder of those voices, writing is more often than not, a lonely job. At the end of it all, you’re the one who has to sit there and bring your stories to life with your words.

On good days, it’s the best thing in the world. On bad days… you wonder what possessed you to write. What insanity took you over to put your fingers over your keyboard and type away. Or lift a pen and write.

On those horrible days when listlessness plagues you like a thick, sticky sludge wrapping around you and dragging you down, it feels as if life has no purpose. As if you’re in a bubble where nothing interests you and nothing can touch your emotions. You couldn’t care less what happens to you or your writing.

In one way, not caring can be a blessing when you’re waiting to hear back from agents. If you don’t care, rejections can’t touch you. But then that just means listlessness has its hooks deep in you and there’s no way it’s letting you go. That thick gook again. (Ooh, I like saying the word ‘gook’ – it’s a synonym for ‘sludge’.)

A friend told me that listlessness is a state of the mind. Only you can pull yourself out of that gook/sludge. The best way I know how to, is to force yourself to be active. You might not feel like doing anything but you gotta do what you don’t want to.

It’s the only way to fight it. When listlessness grabs hold of you, writing gets hard. Sticking with it takes effort and courage.

So stick with it. You’ll be better for it.

Regards,

S.R. McKade

Very Inspiring Blogger Award

I’ve been nominated by Skylar Finn of Life of a Random for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award! Wow, I totally did not expect that. I don’t know if my words are very inspiring but I’m glad someone thought so. So thank you for this wonderful surprise, Skylar! 🙂

Time for the Rules:
1. Thank and link back to the amazing person(s) who nominated you.
2. List the rules and display the award.
3. Share seven facts about yourself.
4. Nominate some other amazing blogs and comment on their posts to let them know they have been nominated.

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Seven Facts About Me (Sorry I’m very boring):

1. I’m a Totally Certified Bookworm (TCB). I can’t live a day without reading or wowing over my To-Be-Read mile-long list or checking out books and my favorite authors on the internet or finding new books on Goodreads. Well, you get the idea.

2. I feel insecure without my Kindle lol, so of course, I carry it around everywhere even when I know I probably won’t have the opportunity to use it but I still gotta have it with me. God forbid anything should happen to my baby. (Ooh, that reminds me – I need to put more books in it. You see what I said above about being a TCB?)

3. I love spicy food – the spicier, the better. Jalapenos on pizzas are a definite must. Then there’s dessert – My name is S.R. McKade and I’m a chocolate addict. I admit it. I went to Chocoholics Anonymous and I didn’t even make it 5 seconds there. All I could think was; Chocolate cake, chocolate milkshake, chocolate muffins, chocolate pie, Nutella, Oh My God – Brownies! Who can give those up? Needless to say, I’m still an addict.

4. I tried Zip-lining and I’m a total adrenaline junkie now. Holy Mother of God, best awesome experience ever! I found out though that even suspended in the air hundreds of feet above the ground, I am still not a screamer. Go Me!

5. Oh, I’m still on number five. Hmmm, what next? I can’t figure out another fact about me. Oh! *light-bulb* I got it. Fact Number 5 – I am a very, very sarcastic person with a sarcastic sense of humor. I can find something funny in anything. Yep, I’m weird that way. Plus, my sarcasm is an art. My friends call me deluded. What do they know? 😉

6. I wrote a book called “Holding Out For Skye” which is a New Adult Romantic Comedy. It’s an absolute laugh-out loud story and you definitely need to get it. Yes, I’m shamelessly self-promoting. Hey, what can I say, that book is a fact about me so hold back on the lynching!

7. Finally, you’ll be pleased to see I’ve reached Fact Number 7. I’ve bored you enough. I hate betrayal. One of my personal pet peeves is friends who don’t stay loyal to each other or couples who don’t stay faithful. They’re the worse kind of human beings. Betrayal cuts deep and I hate people who do that. Not to end this on a too serious note, I often imagine Betrayers as fat little ducks crossing a street with me at the helm of a Mack truck and going over and over them. Splat!!! On second thought, ducks are too damn cute.

As you can all see, I’m a sarcastic, vindictive and very mean person. Good luck to anyone who wants to know me. Cheers!

My scapegoats, Ahem, I mean Nominees:
– OM @ Harsh Reality (The moment I got nominated for this blog, I knew I wanted the opportunity to give OM this Award for his amazing blog. He’s one of the best Inspiring Blogger I know. And I totally love his blog.)
– Stephanie @ Moonrise Book Blog
– Lola @ Hit or Miss Books
– Misha Jenkins @ A Writer’s Life For Me

Thanks again to Skylar for the nomination. You have one hell of an inspiring blog yourself, Skylar!

Regards,
S.R. McKade

Hats Off to Book Review Bloggers

As a die-hard reader of fiction, you have so many book categories to choose from, e.g.—Middle Grade (MG), Young Adult (YA), New Adult (NA) and Adult. Then there are the numerous sub-genres for each main category: Romance, Comedy, Contemporary, Fantasy, Paranormal, Dystopian, Horror, Thriller etc.

Not to forget the poem and non-fiction books and Manga, of course. Can’t forget my beloved Manga now, can I?

Are you a dabbler in each genre or are you someone who’s comfortable in one specific genre? Do you venture in the unknown, outside your comfort zone or prefer to stick to what you know?

Me, I admit it, I’m a dabbler—an eclectic reader who reads pretty much everything. I believe there is something worthy in every book I read, that each one enriches me, who I am, in some way, even books that I end up not liking. I wish others would also dabble because that would mean they’d grab my book with hot little hands *hint, hint*

That’s just me—I want to change the world to my vision of it *Ahem, world-domination issues, I know*

But I don’t begrudge others for having a specific taste. A reader’s preferences are their own and are very, very personal. That’s how it should be. Books are supposed to be something you love and not an obligation you have to fulfill.

If reading became an obligation, it would take out all the fun in it—the sense of wonder, the endless myriad of emotions a story pulls out of you—pain, fear, laughter, horror, anticipation, heartache, tears, hope, joy.

So Indie and Self-published authors, don’t condemn the people who don’t love your book. Don’t lose heart when they give you a one-star or negative review. Maybe your book wasn’t to their taste but it doesn’t mean that others won’t like it. At the very least, take comfort that they actually read it to give you the bad review. You can’t force someone to like a book—it’s always their choice, as it should be.

And that brings me to the Book Review Bloggers around the world who have such a wide taste in reading and take so much time and effort to read books and give reviews. I, personally, am in awe of them, of their dedication and just wanted to say thanks.

Book Review Bloggers are the ones who put our names out there and deserve our courtesy and respect. So, hats off and a big thanks for all your hard work and the awesome blogs you have.

Regards,

S.R. McKade