Despair, Depression – Give up or Fight back?

I wrote this post a while back but it bears repeating. Depression is an ongoing battle and so many out there are fighting to climb out of that hole. Shout out to all those fighters, carry on. Fighting!

What is Despair? A state in which all hope is lost or absent. Depression? A mental state characterized by a pessimistic sense of inadequacy and a despondent lack of activity; Sad feelings of gloom and inadequacy.

Despair and depression grab you by the throat and slowly strangle the life out of you. They make you blind to the bright colors in your life so that all you can see is gray. A cold lifeless gray. It can be so seductive, so easy to surrender to it. 

What brought on this topic you may ask? I was thinking how a lot of us, potential writers and closet writers, are discouraged in writing, in following our dreams. You want to be a writer and people tell you it’s a pipe dream, give it up. Others tell you that you’re wasting time, give it up. More believe it’s just a hobby you’re fooling around with, that you’ll give it up soon enough. And there are those who laugh at you and believe you could never write anything worth reading and advise you to give it up. 

Those three words again: Give It Up. They go round and round in your head until they’re all you can see. And discouraged, you decide it was a foolish dream to start with after all and you GIVE IT UP. Then you go through your whole life incomplete and without hope, your life as gray as you are inside, devoid of the bright colors that spark up your soul.

How many of us fight through despair, depression every day? Through the loss of hope, through disappointment? 

The key to dealing with despair and depression is to not quit. NEVER give up on yourself. People might bring you down but believe in yourself. It’s the most powerful tool you could ever have – self-belief. 

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Fight for what you want. Give yourself a pep talk. Be your own inspiration, your own warrior.

Exercise frequently – believe me, it helps to have a physical outlet for all the frustration, disappointment, sadness bubbling inside of you. I recommend swimming if you can, it clears your head.

Relax with your favorite movie or TV show. All this helps in strengthening you for the obstacles in your life. 

Dream as big as you want, because dreams are what keep our souls alive. (So long as your dreams are legal and don’t hurt anyone, of course.)

Whatever you want to do, be it to write, to sing, to tame lions and sharks, go for it. Make a start somewhere. Try. Even if you fail, at least you’ll know you did your best. That you tried. Do it for yourself, not for others. The moment you start, something inside you unfolds and everything in your world shifts and becomes clearer. You have purpose in your life. 

There will be days you will be so full of hope you’ll be bursting with it. Anything will seem possible.

And there will be days when life cuts you to small pieces and you feel like you can’t get up. You have to get up, keep going, keep enduring, keep fighting. If you don’t fight back, you’re just lying there in the middle of the road and telling the bus of life to run you over. 

Treasure those days of hope and keep fighting on. Start now! 

Best of luck!

S.R. McKade

Procrastination 101

I haven’t done any posts lately and I thought that talking about how I’m the Queen of Procrastination would make a good topic. I decided to Google the word just to see what comes up and to make sure my info on it was correct. 

So I found this article on Wikipedia. In short, procrastination means—delaying urgent tasks until the last minute in preference for more pleasurable stuff. I learned that the ‘pleasure principle’ is the one responsible for procrastination — that psychologists believe this is a coping mechanism for anxiety over starting or completing a work or task. (In other words, Pleasure = Bad for you.) 

Color me shocked. I never knew that. The thought went through my head, “OMG, I have an anxiety issue!” 

I read on. I learned that other psychologists believe that anxiety will cause people to postpone their urgent tasks to the last minute only if they are impulsive. 

So now on top of having an anxiety issue, I’m also an impulsive person? Impulsive’s pretty cool actually. I like that one. 

I continued reading: “Procrastination may result in stress, a sense of guilt and crisis, severe loss of personal productivity, as well as social disapproval for not meeting responsibilities or commitments.”, “Chronic procrastination may be a sign of an underlying psychological disorder.”

Did you even know that? I didn’t even know there was something called ‘Chronic procrastination’. So along with an anxiety disorder, I now have I don’t know what other psychological disorders. 

Holy cow! I need to get myself admitted! And all I did was look up the word, “Procrastination.”

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I think a little procrastination’s good for you. I admit that it’s a coping mechanism to deal with negative stuff because for me it works. Whenever I’m down or sad, watching a funny movie or reading an awesome book makes me feel better. Yes, I know, I should have been dealing with all the many issues in my life that need attention, but for just a little while, I needed to forget it all and just be myself. 

I think that’s therapy enough for me. 

Often when I write for long stretches at a time or stick with the same story, I need to get away from it for awhile. Stepping away from it kind of put things into perspective. I go back recharged and armed with a new sense of purpose. 

So a little procrastination’s good, just be careful not to let it become chronic, or you’ll get a letter from the loony bin with your name on it, lol. 

Regards,

S.R. McKade

Despair, Depression – Give up or Fight back?

What is Despair? A state in which all hope is lost or absent. Depression? A mental state characterized by a pessimistic sense of inadequacy and a despondent lack of activity; Sad feelings of gloom and inadequacy. 

Despair and depression grab you by the throat and slowly strangle the life out of you. They make you blind to the bright colors in your life so that all you can see is gray. A cold lifeless gray. It can be so seductive, so easy to surrender to it. 

What brought on this topic you may ask? I was thinking how a lot of us, potential writers and closet writers, are discouraged in writing, in following our dreams. You want to be a writer and people tell you it’s a pipe dream, give it up. Others tell you that you’re wasting time, give it up. More believe it’s just a hobby you’re fooling around with, that you’ll give it up soon enough. And there are those who laugh at you and believe you could never write anything worth reading and advise you to give it up. 

Those three words again: Give It Up. They go round and round in your head until they’re all you can see. And discouraged, you decide it was a foolish dream to start with after all and you GIVE IT UP. Then you go through your whole life incomplete and without hope, your life as gray as you are inside, devoid of the bright colors that spark up your soul.

How many of us fight through despair, depression every day? Through the loss of hope, through disappointment? 

The key to dealing with despair and depression is to not quit. NEVER give up on yourself. People might bring you down but believe in yourself. It’s the most powerful tool you could ever have – self-belief. 

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Fight for what you want. Give yourself a pep talk. Be your own inspiration, your own warrior.

Exercise frequently – believe me, it helps to have a physical outlet for all the frustration, disappointment, sadness bubbling inside of you. I recommend swimming if you can, it clears your head.

Relax with your favorite movie or TV show. All this helps in strengthening you for the obstacles in your life. 

Dream as big as you want, because dreams are what keep our souls alive. So long as your dreams are legal and don’t hurt anyone, of course. 

Whatever you want to do, be it to write, to sing, to tame lions and sharks, go for it. Make a start somewhere. Try. Even if you fail, at least you’ll know you did your best. That you tried. Do it for yourself, not for others. The moment you start, something inside you unfolds and everything in your world shifts and becomes clearer. You have purpose in your life. 

There will be days you will be so full of hope you’ll be bursting with it. Anything will seem possible.

And there will be days when life cuts you to small pieces and you will feel like you can’t get up. Those days I like to stay in bed but of course I can’t. You have to get up, keep going, keep enduring, keep fighting. If you don’t fight back, you’re just lying there in the middle of the road and telling the bus of life to run you over. 

Treasure those days of hope and keep fighting on. Start now! 

Best of luck!

S.R. McKade

BLANK PAGE

Is there anything worse than a blank page? I remember reading somewhere once—there’s nothing more scarier than a blank page to a writer. I can’t recall where I saw it or who wrote it but they were right. I look at this new page and all I can think is—where do I start?

Blank pages can be so hard. They’d stare at you with all that whiteness and then you’d think, If I was scared of the dark before, well, that fear just got replaced by white.

You’ve got all these ideas blooming in your head and you don’t where or how to start.

But I say, you gotta look at that white page and say, “Look at all those possibilities. They’re infinite. All the colors I can fill that white with, the color of my words.”

Freddie Stroma’s song “Possibilities” comes to mind: “All these possibilities, so many little possibilities…” (Listen to it if you haven’t, the lyrics are awesome, plus he’s got a great voice)

The only way to get over a blank page is to write. Write a line, a paragraph, even just a few words. Just write. Jot down whatever jumbled thought comes to mind. It can be something deeply moving and so inspirational that you couldn’t believe you’d wrote that. Or could it be gibberish. It doesn’t matter. It got you over the blank page, didn’t it?

Sometimes you have to go with your gut and just write whatever scene you can see in your mind at that moment. It could be the total opposite of what you’ve been writing or it could be like ten chapters behind what you started but you’d see it so clearly that it just comes out right.

So, put on your armor and go face that white page.

Happy Writing!

S.R. McKade